The one song I have been singing the last few years has been about not getting a break. The spouse travels a lot and I’ve been his spine through the journey. Its a lot of fun. Its also a lot of stress. The choices. The decisions. It’s non-stop and although the kids are a lot older, the fact of having done it for so long, unfortunately does not make it any easier or quicker.
The fun part is most often the decisions pan out A-OK. But then there are those chaotic moments, when one falls ill, the other has a paper the next day, so as the adult in the room, do you opt to let the one with the paper stay home alone? OR do you drag them with their study material to the ER? Or those times when one decides to hang out with friends and decides to go incognito for a bit, and the other is suddenly called out for a class. Do you let them travel alone, or do you go out with them without being sure if the other one has access to get back home? Yes, one option here is rather straightforward, let the one that’s incognito sit outside for a while. 😉
But the ‘no break’ tune has been playing for a while now. And TBH, the spouse is always accessible on speed dial as are the extended family members from various locations at all times and across all timezones. I really have no reason to be singing this tune so often, but its just been on a loop for a while now. Maybe it’s just a simple adult conversation or just knowing that there is someone to cut you some slack, or let you in, when you’ve locked yourself out. Or even someone to roll your eyes with or to, when the kids act sassy. I don’t know, sometimes it feels as if, everything happens in the week the spouse is traveling. and most often nothing happens when folks are around. It’s sunny skies, on-time bus schedules, and cancelled extracurriculars.
On the flip side, sometimes I wait for this time out from the spouse and other adults to get the kids’ sleep-wake-up routine back in order. Get them off gadgets and have them cooperate a lot more. Do more chores around the house. Lazy days when its just me and the kids, are sometimes a little chaotic, with us waking up late, and all schedules thrown out. Meals can be ordered in, walks with the kids in the park are just that appropriate-bit silly. It does sound like I get me holiday without realizing it. So, maybe I should use this opportunity to just switch the tune to something more peppy and happening!!
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